3 day non residential Men’s Retreat – Delhi

March 2027 – final dates to be arranged

According to the stories of the Sagh’ic Tradition, the first human falls from the stars into a world of aloneness – there are no other humans, however the shadow of this event is the not simply the lack of other humans, it is the absence of other men, why which this human child can reflect, model, aspire and identify with. The stories tell that at some point he creates a dream world for himself in which there may indeed be other men, however these are dreamlike reflection of his own male aloneness.

This aloneness creates a boundary of fear, a fear of being close, comparison, a misunderstanding of male companionship and the fear of the male, others and ourselves.

This companionship: the word coming from the Latin words ‘com’ and ‘pane’ – “with” and “bread”: implying a relationship ion which we feed each other and are nourished by each other, fades into the shadows of “real men’ fantasy, which means men are starving, and starving for each other.

“Boys, when they’re young, are capable of having all kinds of fun with each other and enjoy hanging out, being physical, and all that stuff,” he says. “Then, something happens. We put them in school, where it’s OK to play and be aggressive, but where there’s something taboo about being too friendly.” Fred Rabinowitz, University of Redland

The societal excuse is that boys grow up to be men, and boyish behaviour is not needed in the everyday macho world. we have lost that ability to be close, to be intimate, to be devoted to another male in order realise self devotion.

Hungry boys, pretending to be men, afraid of each other, finding the only way to maintain the facade is one of egotistical power, dominance and greed, all symptoms of emotional starvation.

The bromance. A term used to describe two men in a close friendship. It’s a beloved and popular word, used frequently in our society. But, why do we feel such a need to use such a word to describe a male friendship? Why can’t male friendships just be friendships? The assumed need of a unique term to describe the male friendship phenomenon is in itself something to consider. 

Bromance, relationship, friends, lovers, companions, comrades, brothers in arms, so many words to lessen our judgement out assumptions of the closeness of men. and when there is this closeness, stress, shame, loneliness, ego, fade replaced by confidence, purpose, collaboration and honesty. Above all men feeling safe and secure in who they are.

Through this 3 day journey, in the company of men, through ancestral ritual and ceremony, we will let go of the fear of male intimacy, releasing ourselves from that loneliness of not trusting ourselves, and top be trusted by other men, not reflections of ourselves.

This Retreat might be considered part 2 of Redeeming the Male Soul, however attendance at such is not obligatory for this Retreat

The fatherless boy